Can't seem to combat the breakage

I did an overnight pre poo with my usual stuff. I left it on and went to the gym the next day. After the gym, I added a little avocado oil to my hair and did a 30 min stint under the hood dryer. I washed with tea tree shampoo then mixed the 2min reconstructor with honey, olive oil, caster oil and avacado oil. Left it on for 30 mins. Rinsed. Used the chi silk infusion, k/c leave in conditioner and aphogee tea tree reconstructoriser. I flat ironed with fantasia IC serum. My hair was breaking and it felt dry and still feels dry. Dammit. I think the combination of the honey and the extra products, which i haven't used in a while did not help.

Breakage.....

I gymed it on Sunday morning and washed with neutralising shampoo. Used aphogee balancing moisturiser, olive oil and the two step treatment. Dried and flat ironed. My hair felt kinda dry all day. I didn't style it and also forgot to sleep with a head scarf on. My hair was soo dry!.

I then went to the gym Monday. For some reason I co washed at the gym using a mix of organix mint and tea tree conditioner and olive oil. I left it on while showering. I then used west Indian caster oil on my crown and nape area. I let my hair air dry. The next day, used serum, heat protectant spray, a little organic root stimulator olive oil, some keracare wrapping lotion. I styled with the heating iron. Even did a seran wrap and it was still stiff and dry and breaking.

Yesterday , I did an overnight pre poo with caster oil, avocado oil, jojoba oil, grape seed oil, glycerine and organix mint conditioner and left it in over night, using a shower cap and ceran wrap. Woke up and put some caster oil on the damaged parts, sat under the hood dryer for 20 mins. I washed with aphogee damage shampoo and saw little bits of broken hair, maybe and inch long. There were between 10-15 of them. I rubbed some olive oil, avacado oil and a table spoon of the two step treatment into my hair and saw lots of broken hair on my hands. Left the treatment on for 10 minutes and washed it out. Using just the k/c wrap lotion, I made a rubbish attempt at wrapping, but my hair felt light and not weighed down at all. I'm just disappointed by the breakage during the wash. It's not breaking after styling.

I have to say, I'm pleased that I can actually hold the area that was damaged just want to retain it and ad to it now.

I caved in and relaxed

In order to stretch my relaxer I've been doing lots of pre poos and deep conditioning treatments. Because my hair is so short, I can't not use heat. I've been going to the gym 4 times a week and try to wash every other occasion after. I really need to learn how to wrap my hair, which might help, but I hate wrapping it when wet as I am concerned about breakage during the combing process.

Anyway, I got to a point where I felt confident enough to relax. I used elasta qp. I left it in for 12 minutes this time which left my hair under processed. It may have been because I saturated my hair in olive oil before the relaxer so the relaxer didn't penetrate properly. I wasn't too concerned as I would rather have under processed than over processed. Next time, I might leave it in for 20 minutes. I didn't see a lot of hair breakage or shedding so I was relieved. I did a deep condition with Dr Organics vit e oil conditioner and olive oil. I noticed after 20 mins under the dryer that the damaged part of my hair was quite "crispy". It just felt dry. I lay my hair flat against my scalp, but decided I was too tired to sit under the hood dryer to let it dry. I used a silk scarf and went to bed. When I woke up the damaged parts were still feeling dry, but it does appear to be filling in.
I used a heat protector from Fantasia and their serum and flat ironed my hair. It feels really bouncy and moisturised. The itching was back so had to use keracare again.

After I flat ironed my hair, it felt great and its grown. I cut the front to mid ear length and not it's just at the end of my ear.Yeah. I even have an inch of hair to hold where the damaged occurred

short relaxed hair and exercise

I joined the gym. I keep reading that you should wash your hair after every wash, but I seem to recall exercising and not washing more than once a week and my hair was fine. I don't want to use so much heat on my hair so I will do my mid week co-wash instead. I tried the olive oil moisturiser and its soo greasy. I have discovered that using a silk scarf on my hair whilst air drying really helps keep my hair sily. I washed my hair with dr organics tea tree shampoo afer doing a d/c with organic root stimulator, a mix of olive oil and some other oils. i then mixed oilive oil with aphogee 2 min reconstructor and left it in for 5 mins. Rinsed, towel dried my hair, use a little keracare leave in conditioner a bit of serum and let my hair air dry. After using the straighteners, my hair as so fly! I've noticed less breakage, in fact hardly any breakage, but my crown and nape is sooo itchy! nothing seems to be helping....but at least there is no breakage around that area like there was 4 weeks ago. I'm tempted to relax but I just want to protect my hair as much as possible. I'm almost 6 weeks post.